Most people want to be happier, but just don’t know how. Many of us make things harder than they need to be. It’s a habit that has likely become the norm for you, too. Maybe you’ve taken on too much at work yet again, found yourself in another life sucking relationship, or have become stuck in a cycle of negative thinking. All of these can sabotage your happiness and make you feel insecure. There is a part of you that wants to finally feel happy (otherwise you wouldn’t be reading this) and I’m going to share some happiness tips to help you achieve that.
Whether you are surrounded by crummy circumstances, frustrating people, or find yourself dwelling on the past, there are things you can avoid doing to actually make room for happiness. As tree hugging as that sounds, it works. When you stop doing the things that bring you down, you make room for the things that lift you up. I had to work really hard at it, and often find myself having to adjust my mindset after a stressful day or even two, but it is possible to stop the negative self-talk and feel so much happier.
Perhaps negative thoughts have been the norm for years, or life has felt like a series of sucky events, making it hard to feel anything but insecure. No matter where you are on the positive spectrum, you deserve to be happy.
Stop it already, and get happy.
1. Stop being hard on yourself. Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. So when you find that your mind is beating you up, try to talk back. ”I am doing the best I can.” “I’m learning from mistakes.” Don’t let the voice of negativity win. Remind yourself that you deserve to be happy.
2. Stop trying to buy happiness. If you like the finer things in life that’s wonderful. But keep in mind, no matter how much the shoe, the car, or the house costs, it’s not going to be a permanent fix for feeling happy. Before you purchase anything make sure your intention is not to fill an emotional void. If you need it, want it, and can afford it, get it. Buying something to make you feel better about yourself will only result in disappointment and sadness, especially when your credit card bill arrives.
3. Stop ignoring the small moments. Enjoy the little things, they add up. The discount you received on a purchase, a smile or “hello” from a stranger, the favor your neighbor did, notice these moments. These are beautiful, positive happy experiences that we often brush off and look for big, grand gestures. Start focusing on what you’ve already got and the beauty around you.
4. Stop ignoring your dreams. Life isn’t just about what your title is or what you’re going to be when you “grow-up.” In order to build a happy, positive life, think about all the little and big things you want to try and achieve. Want to learn Spanish or travel to Uganda? Great, get it on paper. Write them all down. It puts your dreams into action.
5. Stop being such a wench. The rude comment you made on someone’s post or a judgement about a strangers appearance (even if you just whispered it to a friend), spreads some seriously negative vibes. They don’t go away. Your body and mind remember the negative feelings. Whats worse, is even if you don’t care what others think, it’s likely that you’re going to feel guilty or “icky” about it later. Try to see other’s points of view, and if you disagree do so respectfully.
6. Stop looking for happiness from others.
If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, it’s hard to be happy with anyone else. This isn’t easy, it’s a process in acceptance. You have to try to create stability in your own life first before you can feel content with someone else. Simple acts of self-care can bring about some serious self-love.
7. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
Re-frame it. Instead of “I don’t want to be (fill in the blank: single, jobless, depressed, overweight, sad).” Change it to “I am looking forward to the day when I am free from (fill in the blank).” Focus on what you do want to happen. Re-frame fears into positive statements about what you desire.
8. Stop being a sissy. It’s okay to have moments of sadness, but don’t get stuck in them. Get outside, call someone, do something that get’s you out of your head and miserable mindset and focused on something totally different. It increases serotonin and helps you feel happier fast.
9. Stop frowning. It makes you more likely to be sad, makes others sad, and ages you! Start to focus on smiling even if it’s for a second at a silly picture, the cute kid sitting next to you on the bus, or the thought of something wonderful in the future. The small things really do add up to a more happy life.
In the big picture the decision to be happy or not is up to you. Hopefully the above 9 tips help you come to the realization that it is your bad attitude that is impacting your happiness and not your unfortunate life.
With love from the Trench kitchen,
xoxoErika♥
